So how do you teach this as a new way of leadership? It has been one of my contentions since seminary that we were given Biblical studies, theology, even prayers that demanded a new way of leading communities to follow Jesus, but we were not offered any particular way of making that real in the systems and ethics that we bring to the Church in our congregations and parishes. We may have good ideas in our head, but until we create systems that embody those ideas, we keep falling back on the old Roman model of Caesar. Maybe we have a somewhat functional committee or Senate to support us. Maybe we even have a retainer class of “people who really get what we are doing here” and a military police to keep us safe. I call that last one the altar guild. No one protects the old ways like the altar guild.
We fall back on rule by law and order embodying, or so we claim, the will of God. We, the priests and pastors, become the persona of Christ, usually not understood as the sacrifice or the servant, but rather the one who should rule.
The temple and throne have the same structure. High priest, Sanhedrin or Bishop and Council. We keep rebuilding the old system of rule and control because it works. I know it works. I wear a collar to some meetings because I know people will behave differently and defer on things I need them to defer on. I don’t usually wear a wreath of laurel crown, but I have thought about it when people were really chaotic.
The claim of this model, which you can read in the Latin of Marcus Aurelius or the speeches of our Presidents, is to provide safety and order against the dangers and chaos of the world out there, by which we mean both outside our community, but also outside the inner circle within our own community. The problem is that this model is that is based on the enemy’s view of the world, and not on God’s.
If we take the Bible seriously, God intended humanity to be caretakers of the world and each other in relationship to God. We were made to be God’s children, and we become the royal priesthood of God when through Christ and the work of the Holy Spirit we are taught to live and love, forgive, heal, and feed as God does. We restore the world, not control it. We heal, not destroy. Where the enemy sees chaos and danger, we see children of God in need of healing, love, belonging.
We lead within communities by learning to be within communities as Jesus is in community. We serve. Among the Gentiles, Jesus said, the leaders among them lord it over them, but it is not be so with you. The greatest among you is to be the least. And the leader is to be servant to all. We cannot even pretend to be following Jesus by lording leadership over others, reminding them to call us “father” and greet us with honor in the marketplace.
“Father” puts us at the head of the Table, in the place of honor, and it doesn’t take long for God to come as host and move us down a little.
So, how do we lead without titles and honor, power and control, threat and enforced order? This is a real question that I have been struggling with for a long time. I cannot read and study Jesus and think that my leadership instincts need some real reform.
Peter Block has been a huge help to me though. In college I was supposed to write a paper on fundraising for a class on non-profit management intended for pastors-to-be. Instead I found a book entitled Stewardship that radically changed my ideas about leadership, organizations, and power. I read it cover to cover sitting in the upstairs of the Phoenix Public library. I still own it and apply the lessons of that book today. A few years ago during my post-Christmas travels to see my family I walked past a new book of Block’s called Community. It promised to offer what I was looking for in forming and leading communities where the belief is that the real Wisdom and Spirit reside in the people, and the leader is one of them who serves that Wisdom and Spirit.
To take one small lesson which Block gives, when you want to get the wisdom of the group and form a community on mission together, you focus not on leading the conversation but on setting up the room and asking the right questions. That sounds like servant leadership, or butler priesthood. When you focus on the setting up the room so that people relate to each other intimately and as equal partners, you help form community and allow the group to function as children of God discovering God’s call and wisdom together. As a leader, the job becomes centered in set up and asking good questions, something Jesus excelled at. The focus is on getting people to think and act as the children of God that we believe they are, rather than as either an army out to control the chaos of life or chaotic enemies that need to be conquered by either or reason or power.
This is one step toward the Rule of God embodied in our systems of leadership. It takes, as Weisbord and Janoff point out in Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There, a lot of self-control and maturity to not take control of the conversation and overpower the quiet voice of the Spirit. That maturity comes from living into a theology, ethos, and expectations over time, but that self-control and tactics of calling forth our brothers and sisters into community can be taught, as can the room layouts and methods of facilitation that can set up the family to be family.
But we have to think differently. It is as if Jesus has sent us ahead to set up for the Passover, let us not set up the dinner as if it were something other than the supper of the Lord. Let us not forget who the true host is and who the guests are. Let us take up our towels and serve if we are the leaders in the way of Jesus.
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Hard to do when everything in our culture mitigates against this. When I used to attend leadership conferences for college teachers and administrators the sessions on Servant Leadership were full and overflowing see https://greenleaf.org/what-is-servant-leadership) and at one time Parker Palmer – an advocate of setting up the room and asking questions was the most requested speaker on the college circuit—but – the very institution fostering the conferences/speakers made the implementation very diffucult.